June 10th- June 15th Life Group Notes

Destroying Myths about Singleness/Marriage

I Corinthians 7: 1-16

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Open in Prayer 
  • Welcome/Introductions/Cast Vision – Remind the Life Group of the Guidelines– See bottom of page.

  •  Doing the Mission: Did anyone share Jesus or last week’s passage?  

  • Does anyone have a God story? An undeniable encounter or experience with God that creates an impact or breakthrough in your day-to-day life. These moments can be extraordinary or very humble, but always personally powerful. 

  • Opening Question: If you are married, or dating, tell us about your love story! If you're content to be single, tell us about your love relationship with Jesus!

  • Share background for the passage:  Paul has been teaching the church in Corinth all things about living the Christian life. Today, we are going to cover what he said about marriage/singleness. 
  • Thought/Focus:  From this passage, what are the obligations between married people?  What about for singles? 
  • Have someone read this week’s passage: I Corinthians 7:1-16 

Discuss these questions: Go deeper as led. Remember Head, Heart, Hands. 
  1.  Why do you think Paul would say in verse one, “It is good for a man not to marry”? 
  2.  There is a “but” after verse one. What is Paul talking about? (vs 2) 
 3.  What does Paul say in verses 3-5 about sex within marriage?  
 4.  What does Paul say in this passage to those who are single? (vv. 8-9) (see also vss. 12-          40)
 5.  What are the advantages of singlehood?
 6.  What obligation does a believing spouse have to an unbelieving mate? (vv. 12-14)
 7.  What does it mean for an unbeliever to be sanctified by their believing spouse? (vv. 12-           14)
 8.  What do you consider to be the most important ingredient in a good marriage?...in                 being single?
 9.  Will you care more about your spouses’ needs than your own? How might you carry this         out in your marriage?
10.  Who will you care for as a single person?  How will you help both singles & married                couples?

Next week’s passage/story: TBD
  • Dismiss in Prayer   

Life Group Guidelines

This needs to be a place where people feel comfortable opening up and sharing with one another. Below are some group guidelines that will help create a safe environment.
CONFIDENTIALITY: What is said in the group  stays in the group.
LISTEN: Let’s value one another during the  discussions by really listening to what is  being shared. Try to avoid thinking about  how you are going to respond or what you  are going to say next.
PAUSE: Allow a pause in conversation after  someone shares. Give the person sharing a  chance to finish and the group the  opportunity to consider what was just  shared before responding.

NO “CROSS TALK”: Be considerate of others  as they are sharing- no side conversations.

NO FIXING: We are not here to fix each  other. Jesus does that part. Speak truth is love, give  
encouragement, empathize,  point to Jesus.  You may share  solutions God has led you through. The  other person should never feel shame or  failure, but rather connection & hope.

NO HIJACKING of shared stories.

NO RESCUING: When people are sharing  something deeply personal, there can be a  tendency to try to make them feel better  about themselves or the situation by  providing immediate condolences. This will  often cause them to stop sharing. Resist the  temptation to rescue people.
SHARING: Be sensitive about the amount of time  you share.
SILENCE: It is important to allow silence in the  group as it provides an opportunity for someone  else to share and for members in the group to  process the topic or question being considered.

BE SELF-AWARE: Be self-aware of how you are  personally affecting the environment through your  words, actions, and non-verbal communication.
“I” STATEMENTS: It’s easy to talk about the issues  of others, but for our purposes, we want you to put  yourself on the table. Try to use “I” statements rather than “them”, "they", "you", “the church”, “us”, “we”, etc.
FIGHT FOR RELATIONSHIP: We will commit to resolve conflict  biblically. When conflict or sin issues arise between  group members, we want to make sure that  we are honoring God and each other in the way we  deal with these issues. We will fight for  relationship.  I will discuss the struggle with the person I am in conflict with first, & if not resolved, seek wise advice. The following are a few key Scriptures  in this regard (there are many others.)
  • If someone sins against you: Mat. 18:15-20
  • Restoring someone in sin: Gal. 6:1-5 
  • Forgive a sinner: Col. 3: 12-13 
  • Reconciling differences: Mat. 5:23-24, Mat. 7:1-5