July 27th- Aug 1st Life Group Notes
THE COMMAND TO BE GENTLE
I SAMUEL 25: 1-35
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Open in Prayer
Next week's passage/story: TBD
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Dismiss in Prayer
- Welcome/Introductions/Cast Vision - Remind the Life Group of the Guidelines- See bottom of page.
- Doing the Mission: Did anyone share Jesus or last week's passage?
- Does anyone have a God story?
- Opening Question: When you were growing up, what holiday do you remember where there was enough food to feed a whole army? What was your favorite holiday meal?
- Share background for the passage: This is about a time when David got extremely angry at a man named Nabal, and Nabal’s wife showed a great deal of gentleness to calm David down.
- Thought/Focus: Has there ever been a time when your anger got out of control? When you are angry, which are you most like? (a) a match on gasoline? (b) slow-burning fuse? (c) smoldering underground fire?
- Have someone read or tell this week's passage/story: I SAMUEL 25: 1-35
- Discuss these questions: Go deeper as led. Remember Head, Heart, Hands.
- Can someone briefly explain what happened between Nabal and David?
- Why do you think David is so violently angry at Nabal?
- Abigail heard what was about to happen. Do you think that she was right to step in and intercede for her husband?
- What would’ve happened had she not interceded? Would it have affected David’s leadership?
- What blessing did Abigail pronounce over David? (see verse 26).
- In verses 27-31, Abigail asks the Lord to do certain things for David. What were they?
- David was grateful for what Abigail had done. What did he thank Abigail for? See verses 32-34.
Next week's passage/story: TBD
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Dismiss in Prayer
Life Group Guidelines
This needs to be a place where people feel comfortable opening up and sharing with one another. Below are some group guidelines that will help create a safe environment.
CONFIDENTIALITY: What is said in the group stays in the group.
LISTEN: Let's value one another during the discussions by really listening to what is being shared. Try to avoid thinking about how you are going to respond or what you are going to say next.
PAUSE: Allow a pause in conversation after someone shares. Give the person sharing a chance to finish and the group the opportunity to consider what was just shared before responding.
NO "CROSS TALK": Be considerate of others as they are sharing- no side conversations.
NO FIXING: We are not here to fix each other. Jesus does that part. Speak truth is love, give
encouragement, empathize, point to Jesus. You may share solutions God has led you through. The other person should never feel shame or failure, but rather connection & hope.
NO HIJACKING of shared stories.
NO RESCUING: When people are sharing something deeply personal, there can be a tendency to try to make them feel better about themselves or the situation by providing immediate condolences. This will often cause them to stop sharing. Resist the temptation to rescue people.
SHARING: Be sensitive about the amount of time you share.
SILENCE: It is important to allow silence in the group as it provides an opportunity for someone else to share and for members in the group to process the topic or question being considered.
BE SELF-AWARE: Be self-aware of how you are personally affecting the environment through your words, actions, and non-verbal communication.
"I"STATEMENTS: It's easy to talk about the issues of others, but for our purposes, we want you to put yourself on the table. Try to use "I" statements rather than "them', "they", "you", "the church", "us", "we", etc.
FIGHT FOR RELATIONSHIP: We will commit to resolve conflict biblically. When conflict or sin issues arise between group members, we want to make sure that we are honoring God and each other in the way we deal with these issues. We will fight for relationship. I will discuss the struggle with the person I am in conflict with first, & if not resolved, seek wise advice. The following are a few key Scriptures in this regard (there are many others.)
LISTEN: Let's value one another during the discussions by really listening to what is being shared. Try to avoid thinking about how you are going to respond or what you are going to say next.
PAUSE: Allow a pause in conversation after someone shares. Give the person sharing a chance to finish and the group the opportunity to consider what was just shared before responding.
NO "CROSS TALK": Be considerate of others as they are sharing- no side conversations.
NO FIXING: We are not here to fix each other. Jesus does that part. Speak truth is love, give
encouragement, empathize, point to Jesus. You may share solutions God has led you through. The other person should never feel shame or failure, but rather connection & hope.
NO HIJACKING of shared stories.
NO RESCUING: When people are sharing something deeply personal, there can be a tendency to try to make them feel better about themselves or the situation by providing immediate condolences. This will often cause them to stop sharing. Resist the temptation to rescue people.
SHARING: Be sensitive about the amount of time you share.
SILENCE: It is important to allow silence in the group as it provides an opportunity for someone else to share and for members in the group to process the topic or question being considered.
BE SELF-AWARE: Be self-aware of how you are personally affecting the environment through your words, actions, and non-verbal communication.
"I"STATEMENTS: It's easy to talk about the issues of others, but for our purposes, we want you to put yourself on the table. Try to use "I" statements rather than "them', "they", "you", "the church", "us", "we", etc.
FIGHT FOR RELATIONSHIP: We will commit to resolve conflict biblically. When conflict or sin issues arise between group members, we want to make sure that we are honoring God and each other in the way we deal with these issues. We will fight for relationship. I will discuss the struggle with the person I am in conflict with first, & if not resolved, seek wise advice. The following are a few key Scriptures in this regard (there are many others.)
- If someone sins against you: Mat. 18:15-20
- Restoring someone in sin: Gal. 6:1-5
- Forgive a sinner: Col. 3: 12-13
- Reconciling differences: Mat. 5:23-24, Mat. 7:1-5
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